Option A) Be super happy for them because they are awesome and deserve somebody else to be awesome with. I actually cried because somebody I dated a little less than two years ago is dating somebody new. And yet, the mention of him dating somebody new led me down an awful rabbit hole of self-doubt and self-pity.
"fireworks," "electricity," a "spark." They feel drawn to each other even though they know nothing about each other's values, personal qualities, expectations, or if their personalities are compatible.
It could be that they have a strong "chemical" reaction, or a personal "magnetism" that makes them feel as if they've known each other all their lives.
We had a great first date and became exclusive shortly thereafter. I appreciate him, feel that we are good companions and think he is very attractive. You say you’re in tune with your body and heart, but are you, really?
I was very attracted to him and felt that he well suited what I had looked for in a man. This man is 14 years my junior and although I initially had concerns, they no longer exist for that reason alone. And, as I said, I am not thrilled in the bedroom nor am I having feelings of desire. What do I need to learn about myself to break this pattern? Does a woman who is truly “in tune” spend five years with a man she never loved and nine months with another man who is going to end up on your searcher scrap heap? You’d like to think you’re aligned and self-aware because of all the work you’ve done, but you’re as confused as anybody else who confronts an ambiguous world without clear-cut answers.
It isn't necessary for a courtship, nor for the majority of happy, loving, enduring marriages, it wasn't ever present.